Sorry to hear about your bad experience with your Ody. I count myself among the hundreds of other forum members with positive experiences. We bought our Ody with 120k on the clock more than 6 years ago. Our maintenance experience has been normal for a front drive 4-cylinder car... shocks, struts, timing belt, spark plugs, radiator, etc. V-TEC engine runs great, transmission still shifts great, etc.
I can't agree about with you about design flaws or inability to keep up with traffic on the highway. Our van pulls strong away from stop lights, and easily cruises at 75.
I've owned to many cars since I was 16. Before and during the Ody's tenure with us, I drove a full size '95 Chevy with an LT1 V8. We bought the Chevy with 59k, and sold it with almost 330k. It still ran well, but the A/C compressor was out and I was ready to move on. The big rear drive Chevy didn't take a lot of maintenance, but with so many miles, a lot of repairs had to be done multiple times. For example, I went through a few starters, alternators, and radiators. On the plus side, there was no timing belt maintenance to worry about, and no front struts to wear out.
Before the Ody we bought a 1993 Mercury Sable with 100k. The transmission lasted about 10k miles before it left us stranded. I got rid of the Sable... I didn't like it that much, and I didn't like my chances with it. This isn't the only car I didn't have good luck with, so it's not like I have a Midas touch or anything.
Everybody's experience will be different, I wish you luck with your next car.
Long live the Ody!