Update
Thanks everyone for the replies. Took it to a Honda dealer and indeed it is on the drivers side (so there I'm not blind or nuts, its NOT in the "same place" as the 07). Also, not sure if this is as designed, but not visible w/out jacking. Their pan was tied w wire, apparently during an oil change since owners knew nothing about it. Pan was covering the access point.
So ... after the dealer marked it for me, I could feel it and even get the wrench in, but could not get the breaker bar enough room to open it bc of the pan. Didnt have a jack w me, on the 07 didnt really need one.
Interesting part is I checked the dipstick expecting coffee brown and saw .... nothing. Nada. Not good. So, since I couldn't get the drain plug opened, I just poured in 2 quarts. Checked again, dipstick looked pink and happy.
They have about 45K. Told them to have the dealer check for leaks, otherwise I think they're fine, no ? only issue is the plug magnet hasn't been cleaned, so its contaminant attracting power is weak ...