Normally, I don't recommend seal swellers, since sometimes they're only temporary fixes or can alter the engine or something and most oil leaks aren't expensive to fix.
That being said, the rear main seal is one I would make an exception for. Lots of people have used the AT-205 recommended above with success. Give it a shot first.
The RMS if you choose to fix it isn't something you really need to go to a dealer for. The reason the labor is so expensive, I believe, is because they need to remove the transmission out of the car. I'd get a few quotes from other independent shops or transmission shops.